Episode 25: The Mum Minute: Why Telling Your Child To “Calm Down” Never Works - And What Actually Helps

In this episode of The Mum Minute, we’re diving into one of the most common phrases parents say - and why it never quite has the effect we hope for.

When your child’s emotions are running high and you find yourself saying “please just calm down” through gritted teeth, it can feel like you’re speaking another language. Because, in a way, you are.

This episode explores what’s really happening in your child’s brain when they’re overwhelmed, why logic goes out the window, and how you can help them find their calm - even when you’re barely holding onto yours.

You’ll learn the simple science behind emotional regulation, a quick breathing tool you can teach your child (and use yourself), and the golden rule that changes everything: regulate before you reason.

And if this episode resonates with you, you’ll love my brand-new 3-week parent-led course, Helping Small Humans Handle Big Feelings - starting on the 17th November. It’s a live, practical and encouraging course for parents of children aged 6–11, teaching the exact tools to help your child manage big emotions and bring more calm to your whole home.

Key Takeaways:

• When your child’s emotional brain (the amygdala) takes over, the thinking brain temporarily switches off - which is why “calm down” never works.

• Children need to feel calm before they can think calmly - body first, then brain, then words.

• You can model calm instead of demanding it: slow your voice, lower your body, and co-regulate.

• Try the Sniff Sniff Sigh technique - two small sniffs in, one long sigh out - to quickly reset your nervous system.

• You’re not failing. You just haven’t been shown the tools that actually work yet - until now.

Listen now for practical, science-backed strategies you can start using today and a gentle reminder that you’re doing far better than you think.

Links And Resources

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Learn more about Corrina Beasley Therapy

Find out more about Helping Small Humans Handle Big Feelings - doors open soon!

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Until next time,

Corrina x