Episode 21: Holding It All: The Hidden Mental Load of SEND Families
What happens when you're parenting on a battlefield that was never built for your child?
In this episode of The Naptime Sessions, I’m joined by Dr. Rosie Gilderthorp – Clinical Psychologist, founder of Know Your Mind and Psychology Business School, mum of three neurodivergent children, and someone who deeply understands the emotional and practical load carried by SEND parents.
Rosie brings both professional expertise and lived experience to this powerful conversation. We talk about the mental health challenges that come with raising neurodivergent children, the financial and emotional strain on families, and just how exhausting it can be to navigate the SEND system – especially when that system feels like it’s working against you.
She shares her insights on what helps – from building a supportive community to learning how to advocate for your child – and why it’s so important to protect your own wellbeing along the way.
This is a conversation full of validation, compassion, and practical encouragement for any parent who’s ever felt overwhelmed, isolated, or unseen.
Here’s what we cover:
The unique mental health pressures SEND parents face
How financial strain and lack of support add to the load
Why navigating the SEND system often feels relentless
The emotional toll of having to constantly advocate for your child
Why understanding the system helps you advocate more effectively
The power of community and peer support for reducing isolation
The coexistence of grief and love in SEND parenting
How to build flexibility into your life and work to protect your wellbeing
Encouragement for parents who feel like they’re reaching breaking point
Rosie’s story is a reminder that support isn’t just helpful – it’s essential. And that while you may feel alone in the struggle, there are people out there who truly get it.
Resources
Want to connect with Dr. Rosie Gilderthorp or learn more about her work?
Dr Rosie also mentioned two fantastic resources during the podcast. You can find them here:
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